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February 2021 Newsletter
Happy Month of Love (and chocolate and flowers!) This is a great time of year to celebrate the warmth of an open heart, and the joys of flowers and chocolate! There was a time in my life when I made all of my cards for all Holidays and Birthdays but those days are long over. Now I admit to relaxing into ecards and not too many of them either! What has happened to that young woman who was so excited about Holidays and creating special cards for everyone on her list?!!!!
Well, time has a way of molding us and shaping us as we move through it. I look back on who I used to be and wonder who was that young woman? I have all sorts of emotions about her: I am proud of her, I am mystified by her, I shake my head over some of her not so wise decisions, I applaud her audacity to live outside the box at times, and I feel sorry for some of her missteps. I wonder how much of her is still with me, and how much of her I left behind. I see sparks of her and other parts seem so foreign to me.
Perhaps it is my crone stage of life where, as my Mother used to say, all my future is behind me. I don’t quite believe it is that grim, but I HAVE reached a point where most of my years ARE behind me. I rarely think of life like that but in this moment of reaching back in the past to revisit who I used to be I am stunned by how many years through which I have to weave my way backwards!
There are a few fun facts that I bet even my children don’t know about that younger me:
I was the first person on campus to wear knee high boots at a time when everyone was still wearing ankle boots. It wasn’t long before people began to copy me, not because it was cool but because where I went to college the winters were fierce, the snow deep, and the winds unyielding.
I was also the first woman to take Naval Orientation and came out with the highest grade in the class. Now to be honest, I was not in the ROTC program and was a senior about to get married to her Navy Officer fiance. The rest of the class were freshmen men and they had better things to do than sit home and study on a Saturday night while my Navy officer was off on his ship. Honestly, if I hadn’t come out with the highest grade it would have been embarrassing!
I was runner up for Freshman Carnival Princess, my highest claim to fame ever in the “beauty” game. I could claim the race was fixed but alas, the woman who won really deserved it!
So that is my early on experience in adulthood. A few outside the box experiences wedged in with one very mainstream experience. And so life has gone on like that. I am often floating in that mainstream but so often find myself swimming upstream in a current all its own. Wondering what on earth I am doing in that odd stream, doing things others never think of!
Imagine how my family reacted to me studying feng shui, color therapy, Akashic Readings when no one else they knew of was doing so. None of those things was ever spoken of at the time I delved into them, from the mid 1980’s on. People thought I had lost it. One of my family members even suggested to my husband that I be put on some sort of drug to turn me into a calm and well behaved woman!
It’s been hard to break through into a place where people trust you and don’t treat you like a pariah for being “different”. Most of my friends are used to this by now and my family certainly is, thank goodness. But it’s not easy living outside the box. I know there are some of you readers who are experiencing this exact same challenge so for you I say keep going! Your life will be a challenge but living a unique life will fill your soul. For those of you who live a more main stream safe existence I say, do what makes you feel like you. Don’t try to step outside the box if that is not who you are. We are not all meant to do life that way. And to those of you who like me step in and out of said box, I say, enjoy the variety!
The purpose of life is to enjoy the journey. And for me I also have to feel I have contributed something, have given back. Not all of us do, by the way, and that is just fine. You don’t have to in order to make an impact or live a good life. So in this month that celebrates love, I celebrate all the selves I have been, and all the selves you have been. The journey is challenging and often so dark we can’t see where it is leading. So it is indeed a good thing to stop during the month of February and celebrate the fact we have come so far and experienced so much and have learned and cried and laughed and feared and braved and experienced so much of life. And still we love. We dare to love ourselves. ALL of the versions of self. ALL the years of self. Give your self flowers or chocolate or a nice dinner or whatever makes you smile.
And celebrate Valentines as a celebration of you and ALL versions of you!
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” – Dr. Seuss “Wooden Hearts”
Guest post: This month I want to introduce Julie to you. I met Julie a year ago when I embarked on a new (for me) course of study, Emotional Freedom Technique. Julie was my “buddy” and we practiced together weekly as well as with others. Julie is, in a word, extraordinary. She is a natural at EFT and her work is transformative. Briefly, EFT can help you shift your thoughts and feelings about things and change your life in a way you might never expect. For example, I originally started this program to help with weight loss but what I got was so much more encompassing than that and went ever so much more deeply that I am basically much different than I was a year ago. I attribute this shift to Julie’s expertise with EFT. And of course to my own willingness to take on the tough stuff and overcome it once and for all. Please welcome Julie to our newsletter and listen to her wisdom.
EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE
“In every culture and in every medical tradition before ours, healing was accomplished by moving energy.” – Albert Szent-Gyorgyi, Biochemist and Nobel Prize Winner.
Hi, I’m Julie, and I’m an emotional freedom technique coach. I specialize in using emotional freedom technique, or EFT, to help people heal their relationship with food. EFT is also known as “tapping,” and it is practiced by tapping with your fingertips on specific acupoints along the meridians in your body, which function like an energetic distribution network.
These meridians transport energy throughout the body and are the channels through which that energy flows. Emotional trauma can cause stagnation in our energy pathways, and our overall existence is affected by this energy flow. My goal as an EFT coach is to help you identify and overcome the places you are blocked by framing past traumas in the context of self-acceptance. Combining acupoint stimulation with elements of cognitive restructuring, exposure techniques, and neuro-linguistic programming is what makes EFT effective.
Many of us have buried our past traumas, unmet needs, and suppressed emotions under a painful struggle with weight loss and emotional eating. Unprocessed events from the past that have left you feeling devalued and dismissed can cause pervasive feelings of worthlessness and rage.When we use our relationship with food as the doorway to access these past emotional traumas and heal them with EFT, self-sabotage and unhealthy eating patterns can finally fall away. Instead of using willpower to stop eating beyond fullness, you’ll be able to intuitively feel satisfied with less food. Foods you used to crave and feel compelled to eat will no longer have the same power over you once the emotional charge is gone. Because your experience with tapping is subjective, you’ll be able to feel for yourself if it’s working for you, and EFT is a self-help method that you can practice on yourself anytime.
“The most terrifying thing is accepting oneself completely.” Carl Jung
The colors of love could be any of these depending on how you use them. I recommend pink for unifying group energies and to create an atmosphere of unconditional love in a space. Red for passionate love. Green for infusing heart energy into an environment, and purple for a more spiritual type of love. Magenta is love of beauty and can be used to infuse “love from above”. http://www.lifepotentials.net/shop/
“As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.
This is the Table of Contents for Simply Color for Everyday Living, the latest book in the Simiply Color series. It was written by 25 professionals plus myself and covers all these ways to use color. Dr. Quaranto describes it as a “combination of self developement, feng shui,” and “tons of ideas.” The book is a great gift item, as well as a wonderful book for your own library and reference http://www.lifepotentials.net/media/books
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde
Happy Valentine’s Day. Until next month…..
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Orange is your ally!
Since Simply Color for Everyday Living was published in September, I have been on many radio shows talking about color. It has been so much fun and the thing that seems to grab most people’s attention is the fact that orange can help support us as we heal from traumas and shocks.
I personally am so grateful to know this as life seems to serve up plenty of these occasions where we get flattened from out of nowhere. It could be a careless remark from someone we love, or it could be a fender bender or worse. It could be a physical whammy or the loss of a friend or family member. Whatever the trauma or shock, it affects our chakra system, particularly the sacral or second chakra.
The color of that chakra is orange and when we are dealing with these life issues, we deplete our system of orange and we need to replenish it, just as much as we need to replenish nutrients when our bodies are deficient in them.
Orange is a very juicy color that we need over and over to keep our sacral chakra happy. Keep supplying orange to your body so that this important chakra never slips into a depleted and weakened state. Like everything else, maintaining is a lot easier than getting into a state of emergency.
Any questions, feel free to ask. Be well!
How to keep all the chakras in balance.
Last month we talked about what colors fuel which chakras. This month let’s address different ways we can bring the colors in:
Foods: pretty self explanatory. Just eat the foods that are the same color as the color you are needing. In our example of orange above, kumquats, oranges, yams, sweet potatoes, orange peppers are just a few examples of what to eat to replenish orange.
Accessories: either in décor or fashion. One of my personal favorite ways is with scarves. They are relatively inexpensive, store easily, and come in all the colors we know and love.
Flower essences: simply select a flower essence that is made from a flower that is the color you are needing. In this case it might be orange begonia. You can put a few drops in your drinking water or place directly under your tongue and let your body absorb it. You could also put a few drops into your body lotion and smooth it on, especially over the sacral chakra.
Essential oils: selecting an orange oil and diffusing it into your space is an easy and pleasant way to bring orange into your body. This is especially good if you do not care for the color and don’t want to wear it or see it.
Clothing: any piece of orange clothing would work including things that don’t show such as underwear or socks.
Gems and Stones: select the ones that are the color(s) you need and hold them or display near your bed or desk.
Get creative: using art supplies of various colors is a fun way to bring colors into your aura.
Sprays: using Simply color sprays is a very simple way to bring the essence of a color into your aura. You can spray it around your body, onto your pillowcase, into a bowl of water on your desk as you work, into your car, around your desk area.
Can you think of other ways to use color? See Simply Color for Everyday Living for great examples of ways to use color creatively, intuitively, and easily.