This has happened to me before and maybe you won’t believe it, but I had the newsletter all written and ready to put into Mail Chimp by last night. It was #4 on my to do list today. But when I opened the file this afternoon, it was gone. I had a few quotes left but the main message was gone. Disappeared. Vanished.
I know enough about this mysterious world to know that that means God did not mean for that to be my message this month. It’s funny because as I was walking this morning I was thinking about it and it felt off to me. I was considering rewriting the whole piece today anyway on a different subject. What that subject would be eluded me and still does so let’s see what comes out as I type away here.
Today happens to be Father’s Day. I grew up in an era in which, at least at my house, my Mom was in charge of the children and my Dad was in charge of going to work every day. It was the era of TV sitcoms like “Father Knows Best”, “Ozzie and Harriet”, “Leave It To Beaver”. Fathers were seen as all knowing and wise and capable of solving any problem. Women were seen as stay at home Moms always dressed in pearls and heels and prepared to handle any emergency with ease and grace. I never questioned any of it and to my little self, it was an orderly world.
Thankfully, Dads today are allowed to participate in child rearing and the impossible stereotypes of the perfect Mother and Father are long gone. But I disagree with the modern notion that in today’s world a child does not need both parents. There seems to be a plethora of single parent homes and it is so sad to see kids trying to prosper in a world where one parent is more or less absent. As a society, we’ve swung too far the other way and I’m hoping we will soon again realize a child needs not only a village, a child needs both the Maternal and the Paternal energies around them.
I am thrilled to see our own sons as they negotiate these new waters. Our generation was that in between one where we began to move into more involvement of the father with the children. Now our sons are amazing Dads, totally involved in the development of their children, which enriches both the Dads and the kids. And it supports the Mom who should never have had to carry the burdens of child care all alone.
So sharing the parenting is a great gift to all involved. On this, Father’s Day 2019, I tip my hat to all the Dads out there who show up, who participate, who support, nurture and love their offspring. And to the Moms who are right there with him providing a nest in which children can thrive. And guys, if you see a child out there who needs a Dad’s influence, take a chance and try to help that child. If you don’t see anyone in your life who needs one, think about becoming a mentor through one of the many organizations like Big Brothers/Big Sisters where you can make a big difference in the life of a child.
It is my wish that all children who are missing this experience be healed from the woundings and the missing pieces of life. I see so much of this in the work that I do, and send each of these precious beings energy and love from the Divine.
Happy Father’s Day to all men out there because chances are, even if you have not officially been a Dad, you have been a mentor to someone, a leader, a nurturer of someone other than yourself. Each one of us can change the world by helping and nurturing kids (and others!) along the way, even when or especially when they are not our own flesh and blood.
The colors of father love are blue and green. The color of unconditional love is pink. To support the father in your life, find out which challenge is his most worrisome, then provide him with the color that relates to that challenge. Click here to read about each color and what it is used for.
I pray to be a good servant to God, a father, a husband, a son, a friend, a brother, an uncle, a good neighbor, a good leader to those who look up to me, a good follower to those who are serving God and doing the right thing.Mark Wahlberg
Happy Father’s Day. Until next month…..