What Your Favorite Color Says About You

Guest Post by

Designer and Author, Sherry Burton Ways, ASID Associate

Introducing Sherry Burton Ways! Sherry is the author of a brand-new book: Landing on Your Feet and Putting Down Roots: 21 Rituals to Transform Your Life and Interior Space. I am proud to say that Sherry also contributed to my book, Simply Color for Everyday Living.  From July 14-28 Sherry will visit 9 Virtual stops on her virtual book tour. You are invited to follow the tour, visit a new blog each day, meet some wonderful new friends, and experience something new. Visit Sherry’s website to sign up to win a prize.

Welcome Sherry!

Have you ever asked yourself exactly what your preferred color says about you or how incorporate it into your interior décor?

To be candid, it is not at all an easy task learning how color works for your interior because it requires many years of experience to fully understand just how colors impact a space. Nonetheless, here are some understanding of your favorite color, what it says about you, and tips for using it in your space.

If you love red like some people do, you love to live life to the fullest with excitement and spontaneity. But what does a red interior speak to others? Red, associated with fire and blood, raises your blood pressure levels and is an ultimate attention grabber! However, if you don’t desire to go totally red, try utilizing it as an accent color to make your space a tad bit more vibrant.

Blue, nonetheless, portrays stability, harmony, calmness and reliability. Blue is the favorite of most of men. An amazing color for rooms, blue makes it possible to unwind, especially soothing blue-greens, and enthusiasts of this color tend responsible residents that do the thing that is right.

Yellow, like a ray of sunlight, adds heat and implies optimism. This makes it perfect for or a bright living space or a kitchen. Huge fans of this color are often upbeat people who have a happy misdemeanor.

Green, the color of nature exudes warmth and calmness. It’s a great color for bedrooms or rooms in which you need a calmer feeling. Lovers of the shade are usually kind, warm and altruistic.

Purple, the preferred shade among youngsters denotes imagination, intangible, and quite often moodiness. Fans with this color tend to be more complex artistic and interesting people who occasionally may seem mystical or dark.

Orange, the color of hunger and vibrancy suits perfectly into that kitchen or dining where you need some life or a dramatic entry. And if you’re a lover of the color orange, you almost certainly show equivalent vibrant nature as the shade with your passionate zest for life.

But what does beige say about you? Beige tells that you are timeless, fundamental, conventional, and easy. Taupe leans toward traits of really balanced, classic, and fair, but brown, usually denotes down to earth with no nonsense.

However, you tend to be intellectual, practical, wise, calm, and conservative if you love grays.

Lovers of white lean toward cleanliness, purity, and neatness.

What about black? The elimination of color leans towards good classic style, but can also mean that you love power, confidence or just becoming conservative.

Interested in using your favorite color as a ritual for manifesting change in your life and environment? Check out my brand new book Landing on Your Feet and Putting Down Roots: 21 Rituals to Transform Your Life and Interior Space on sale now!

The Virtual Book Tour for Landing on Your Feet continues on Monday, July 17th with Sharon J. Burton of SJB Creative Ventures as Sherry Burton Ways presents excerpts from her book Chapter 7- The Ritual of Creative Expression and Chapter 19- The Ritual of Music & Dance from Landing On Your Feet and Setting Down Roots. Find the next stop here at SJB Creative Ventures on Monday, July 19th.

 

 

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* Grand prize: A copy of Sherry’s book along with her grand prize of a 30-minute H.O.M.E. Interior Environment Intro Coaching Session via Skype or in person depending on location.

* A copy of Sherry’s book along with a 20-minute Color Therapy Consultation via Skype. Color Therapy Consults for interior color is one of the first elements you notice when you walk into a room, and color resonates with you when you leave. Color sets a mood: The right color combination can transform a home or office and bring all who reside there new levels of energy. Custom color palettes for interior walls can bring happiness, harmony and well-being.

* A copy of Landing on Your Feet and Putting Down Roots: 21 Rituals to Transform Your Life and Interior Space.

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Freedom is Not Free

 

Here in America, July is the month we celebrate the birth of our country, our freedom and our republic. But as that wise saying goes, “Freedom is not free.” There is a cost to everything in life, and freedom is no exception.

 

What happens when your freedom to express your opinion conflicts with a dear friend or family member’s freedom to express theirs? Do you listen to each other, giving each other respect and room to be who they are, or do you condemn them, shut them out, tell them they are wrong?

 

Right now in our country we have such a divisive attitude occurring. Regardless of your viewpoint, it seems to me that most people are troubled by this divide. The positive thing is that we do live in a country and era in which we can technically express our beliefs. However, practically speaking, it is becoming increasingly difficult for not only our politicians to disagree, but the public, families and friends as well.

 

The hard thing is that I’ve heard of friends or family who have allowed their beliefs to divide and separate them. Last night I heard about a daughter and her Mother who no longer speak because the Mom is a liberal and the daughter is not. Really?

 

Is this really enough to split up families? I know people can say and do things they later regret in the heat of the moment, but to allow these things to break up long-standing and deep relationships is tragic.

 

Before this happens to you, or if it has happened to you, do all you can to prevent this or repair it. Life is so darn short, and we don’t need to spend it justifying our position on something or putting political beliefs before our bond with another.

 

Here are a few quotes I found that I believe will help. Meanwhile, celebrate your independence and your right to believe and express yourselves (hopefully with tact and courtesy!), and remember that freedom does not mean you can say and do anything you want, but that wisdom and intuition should be employed to guide you on when you make a stand and when you don’t. The “Golden Rule” applies here when you have respect for others and their beliefs just as you expect and demand respect from others.

 

Our church has a great motto: “There is more that binds us together than separates us.” And that is the truth of it and what we can focus on when we are with our loved ones and disagree on issues: there is more to bind us together in relationship than separates us.

 

 

“​​​​​My friends, love is better than anger. Hope is better than fear. Optimism is better than despair. So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we’ll change the world.”

Jack Layton

​Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”

​​​​​​​Roy T. Bennett

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HIS-story, HER-story and the BACK-story

Bleeding Hearts

One thing I love to hear are people’s life stories. I once started a book on women’s stories but it lost its energy due to the overwhelming energies in my own life and never got picked up again. Someone wiser than I and a better writer than I will do it and meanwhile, I continue to be fascinated with the uniqueness of people’s valiant struggles and how creative so many are in overcoming obstacles. Those people are such inspirational figures and have taught me so much.

One of the common obstacles we each face is in the area of forgiveness. This can range from a small slight to a huge burden such as assault, abandonment, abuse, and other horrendous issues. Still, the challenge to us is the same: to forgive the offender while not condoning the offense, and bringing some measure of peace back to our lives while releasing our need to cling to our righteous anger at being victimized.

I’ve written quite a bit about forgiveness over the years. If it’s true that we teach what we need to know, it might also be true that we write what we need to hear. In my case, I know this to be true. I am one of those who has experienced “righteous anger” for everything from someone who steals my parking place to much bigger human interaction situations.

In the interest of anonymity, I will not mention specifics but be assured that my life has been filled with these incidents. It would seem one of my big life lessons has to do with learning how to truly forgive.

Over 30 years ago I experienced one of my forgiveness lessons and was in so much emotional pain over the betrayal of a friend that my Mother, who rarely said anything in the form of advice, quoted Mark Twain who wisely said “Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”

She also said, “Time heals all wounds and wounds all heels.” This quote is attributed to Fannie Brice but there is some discussion around where it originated. Regardless, there is truth in this quote and in my case, with those two quotes ringing in my ears, I was able to release my anger and hurt over time and even reached a place of forgiveness. It was not easy. It took time. But I also realized that holding a grudge or hanging on to my firm belief that I was “done wrong” by a trusted friend was hurting me and not affecting the offender in any way.

So this is my HER-story: I was wronged. I hurt. I suffered. I floundered in the land of not understanding why this happened. I hurt and suffered some more. But slowly, by repeating those quotes and understanding the wisdom in them, I was able to move from being crushed to flying free.

The reason I am writing this is because I see some of my loved ones suffering from being hurt. They didn’t deserve this. But there is some learning in these experiences that will expand their being and their awareness and their consciousness that will benefit them in the long run. For me, I am much better at forgiving. I understand the boundary between forgiving and condoning. “Love the sinner but not the sin” is a quote that I understand and live by.

People who hurt others are hurting within themselves. They need healing too: perhaps more than we who are victimized by them. Their HIS-story and HER-story almost always have a BACK story that include horrid things that have happened to them.

I’ve learned that praying for others is a powerful action. I’ve learned that holding onto a grudge and my anger does nothing for me and does not affect the offender in any way. I’ve learned that in every case there is a lesson for me in there somewhere if I but take the time to explore it.

Here is a small almost silly example from my own life: Last week I was just about to pull into a parking space near the door of the store I was going to. All of sudden out of nowhere, this young woman does a quick U-turn and pulls into it, almost hitting me in her manoeuver. (Anyone ever see Fried Green Tomatoes? “TOWANDA” came to mind!)

I was startled, and then I was mad. How could she? She is young and I am obviously not and she can walk, darn it, and I limp, so come on….where is the fairness here?

Well, first I remembered that I can always use the exercise and even often park far away just so I can get the extra steps in. Second, I remembered the days when I was young and under so much time stress and thought maybe she was so harried that she needed that extra time that that space afforded her and after all, I was not in a hurry and the extra steps would serve me.

Next, I took a deep breath, said a quick prayer for her, parked far away, and walked to the store. I had a delightful encounter with the wonderful cashier. As I walked out of the store with a smile on my face, I realized I had not thought again of the incident and was actually surprised that I hadn’t and that by releasing it so quickly I was able to then enter into a pleasant exchange with the cashier, making both of our days better. And hopefully that young woman who was in such a hurry can find some peace in her life so she is not living in such a harried fashion. Been there, and it’s not good.

As I said, this is almost a silly example, but it does give you an idea of what forgiveness can do in releasing us from the burden of carrying anger over a wrongdoing.

I’d love to hear from you ways you have released your own anger in order to free you from carrying a grudge around. Those grudges get heavier with every day don’t they…..

There is a lot to be said for moving on. Staying stuck in the past gets us nowhere, but releasing and moving on opens up limitless possibilities.

Take it from one who knows. And one who spent too many years stuck in her righteous anger. Move on. And live a wonderful life free from anger and finger pointing. You won’t believe how much better you will feel!

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